Never blame the other party

A lousy dancer will often blame the other side when things go 'wrong' (or didn't go the way he wanted).

It's a common problem. It's easy to other people's mistake and not our own.

In my opinion, a REAL good lead, should be able to compensate for the follower's 'mistakes'.

On a social dance floor, it is NOT polite to be teaching (unless she is your student). If we try a move and it doesn't work, we should not blame the other party, or try to teach her what to do.

We should go and think... WHY didn't it work? WHAT can I do to compensate? HOW to execute it better next time?

By doing so, we'll gradually know our move so well, it can work on 'almost' any follower. Of course, this does not apply to certain advance moves which require the follower to be of a certain level. But that's another topic (ladder of moves).

So remember, what something doesn't work,

• do not be in too big a hurry to blame the other party.
• Evaluate the situation.
• Check if it's really beyond her level.
• Check if there is something you can do to improve it.
• Check if you're the one who failed to give the right cues on time.
• Check if there are ways to do it better such that she doesn't need to know the move and can react 'correctly' according to what u want.

We are the lead. We have the 'initiative' and the control. It's easier for us to make changes than to depend having a good follow to dance with u every time :)