Barriers to Social Dancing

Beginner guys have many many 'fears' when it comes to social dancing. I will list down some... in individual posts and write on how to overcome them.

Here is one which I heard recently....

"I wanted to dance with this girl, but she just finished a dance with an awesome lead.... if I ask her to dance now, it would be an anti-climax!"

Does that sound familiar? Basically it's a guy ego problem... we assume that the girls will compare :)

Honestly though, who cares? It's not like u're going after the girl? U're just going to do one dance and the hunt for the next target! :P

If she had a very intensive dance with another guy just before you, then... do a slow and smooth one to help her relax! (I'm sure she'll appreciate it)

The key thing is, enjoy the dance, SMILE. Even doing simple moves (especially on crowded dance floors) can be nice as long as both dancers are smiling and enjoying it :)

I will try to get a girl's POV for this sentence and post it here later.

Salsa On2

http://www.salsanewyork.com/ourdancemusic.htm

I found a very good summary of information and links in the above URL. Those who are starting to learn on2 should go read it. A wealth of knowledge in there.

Some parts I wish to quote are:

We Start On The Major Downbeat, And We Break On The Clave And The Tumbao - When Eddie Torres says that this On 2 timing and style of mambo dancing "logically fits the rhythm of salsa music", he is referring to the fact that the strongest beats in the rhythm, the 1st and 5th beats, are where we begin our moves: we begin our basic step, our cross-body-lead, our turn patterns, our shines. In other words, the beats with the greatest rhythmic thrust (1 and 5) are what power the "On 2" dancer's moves. The greatest "push" or "action" in the music's rhythm (the 1 and 5 downbeats) empower the greatest "action" in the dancer's body (the initiation of a move).

In addition, as noted above, we do our 2 strong body motions, the 2 and 6 breaks (change of body direction), on the major rhythmic beats of the clave, and the strongest sounds of the conga drum, the 2 and 6. So in all three ways (the strongest downbeats, the clave and the tumbao), this particular mambo dance style and timing expresses in its strongest body movements what the structure of salsa music expresses in its strongest rhythms.

We start on 1, we break on 2: This distinguishes standard New York On 2 timing from those which break on 1, 3, etc., and those which don't begin their moves on the 1st beat, such as timings where the dancers step on 2, 3, 4, and 6, 7, 8, for example Razz M' Tazz and some Palladium, ballroom and international styles. Cuban Pete's Personal Opinion - Quoting Fernando Lamadrid, "Cuban Pete, one of the greatest dancers of the Palladium era once explained it like this: "Dancing "On 1" is dancing "TO" the music. Dancing "On 2" is dancing "IN" the music. And at a panel discussion at the World Salsa Congress, he said "....Dancing "On 1" is like dancing to the melody of the music, while dancing "On 2" is like dancing in the rhythm of the music." It might actually be more precise to say ".......dancing "On 2" is like dancing in the rhythm of the clave's tension-resolving and dominant 2 beat". While these statements are only an opinion, they are not uncommon. They do reflect many On 2 dancers' belief and feeling, especially those who danced on another timing previously, that this particular method connects them more to the rhythmic percussive elements in the salsa music. And, by the way, most of us also love the melody and the words in the songs, not just the rhythm. The major point here is that the New York On 2 timing connects very well to the rhythmic structure of classic salsa music.

Please note, however, as mentioned in our Welcome & Introduction to this web site, that nothing here is meant to suggest that different ways of dancing to salsa music are any less legitimate or less enjoyable. No offense is meant, and none should be taken. There is no right or wrong way to dance. One can dance in many ways, and in connection with many different aspects of the music: rhythm, melody, mood, meaning of the words, tempo, harmony, intensity, etc. What matters most is what each dancer prefers.....and that they don't smash into their neighbors on the dance floor

And this

There is a lot of discussion about how New Yorkers dance On 2, and how that relates to the clave, the cowbells, the congas, etc., and how one must be attending to those instruments in order to learn how to dance On 2. This is not true. These discussions are usually by those who are not primarily and dominantly On 2 dancers. Here in the New York metropolitan area, when we learn to dance On 2 from friends or in classes, whether it is with Eddie Torres, the "Mambo King", or any of the many other excellent instructors noted above , we are not paying much, if any, attention to the clave or these other instruments. That is a much later focus in our learning.

In fact, when we initially learn any part of this dance, whether it is the basic step or shines, or more advanced turn patterns, we do not even play the music at all. Instead, we count out loud "1, 2, 3, 5, 6, 7" while learning to place our feet or hands in the proper positions. In order to really understand the feeling of the clave and conga rhythms when dancing On 2, one usually must FIRST be an intermediate or advanced On 2 dancer. And that means that one must have mastered the footwork, timing, partnerwork and open shines to the extent that they are automatic, and that they feel like the only natural way to move to this music. I am not saying that this is the only way to learn our step, but rather that it is the most common method of instruction currently. As with music, while some may learn to play by ear, the majority learn by using a the standardized systematic notation; some may learn mambo in other ways, but the majority here learn by breaking down the dance into the count and the various turn and open shine patterns, many of which have names

Learn the moves 1st by counting, don't worry too much about musicality. i.e. we need to have our alphabets before we can form words and then sentences and then paragraphs and then to poetry!

Complacency

Be extra careful when you 1st dance with any girl.

No matter how familiar you are with your move, you can never predict her reaction.

So always LOOK and take precautions. Do not be complacent and assume that your move or lead will work as expected.

I've recently committed the above error when I danced with an old friend that I had not danced with for a while. Suffice to say, she moved when I expected her to stay on the spot. The result? I smacked her on the head.... it's so embarrassing and I hope there are no bruises the next morning :P