Quote - If you hurt a girl, she will remember you forever (For the wrong reasons)

Yah, the point of this post is already in the tittle. Simple to understand right?

But many guys just don't get it.

I've said this countless times, take care of your partner on the dance floor. But I have never thought of it the other way (coz such notion is inconceivable to me)..... what happens if you hurt your partner?

Well, one girl asked me to tell my students, and I can say that it's a quote, 'anonymous' of coz, that "If you hurt a girl, she will remember you forever" (and siam* you forever as well).

This girl happened to be quite good looking AND very patient. She don't mind dancing with guys who are new and still learning.

Unfortunately some guys just try out all sorts of complicated stuff which they cannot handle (maybe they were trying too hard to impress?) and ended up yanking her all over, arm/finger twisting, etc. Simply bad. Worse, they don't even realize they are hurting their partner. I'm quite sure many were puzzled why they kept being rejected by the girls after one dance.

So guys.... if you want the girls (who dance) to like you, learn to dance properly 1st. It'll make your buaya-ing attempts more successful :P :P

Focus on the dance then the girls, this has a higher chance of success than the other way round (girls then dance). LOL (this is also quoted from her, kekekek)

(PS - I'm not advocating guys to buaya hor, :P :P :P)
(PS - For non Singaporeans, 'siam' means avoid, and 'buaya' means crocodiles but we are usually referring to flirts/flirting)

Relation between Driving and Dancing

While teaching salsa, I've come to use quite a few driving techniques and terminology for analogies.

They are quite fitting too. (some of these .... were taught to me by Justin)

1) Power steering vs Autopilot
For the followers, we want POWER STEERING -> Feel where the lead(driver) wants u to go, and assist by moving in that direction!! The result? You will feel VERY light to him!
Do NOT AUTOPILOT, that is.... move on you own against the wishes of the lead. This will result in 2 people dancing on their own rather than together.

2) Braking technique - smooth. Squeeze hard at start, release the force slow and reduce it gradually towards a stop

Mathematically, this is the relationship: As Speed-->zero, BrakingForce --> zero
Or... Dy2/Dx2 = zero, rate of change of acceleration = zero,

Now if that don't make sense to you (e.g. if you hate maths), the idea is to CUSHION the force such that your follow do not feel the brunt of the impact when you need to change directions, stop, quickly, etc. etc.

This is very important when executing bastard moves (moves with quick and fast direction changes).

One other example to illustrate this is... imagine if you hare holding a swinging pendulum. You want the Pendulum to stop PRECISELY at a particular point. How do you do it? If you use too much force, it will swing back, if you use too little, it will continue moving! Thus you need to ADJUST the amount of force such that it is JUST enough at the RIGHT time to stop the movement.